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Postby Toks » Wed Jan 16, 2008 10:25 am

[quote="Daniel Gee"]Thanks for all the encouragement guys-i'm really loving this racing lark and hopefully come summer I can help make it a vintage year for the agreeables.

Oh I'm sure it will be Daniel[quote]( i realise that last bit comes across a bit gay; but such is life :lol: )
On the topic of sounding gay my son (age 12) and his mates seemed to use the term quite a lot in all types of ways when we were hanging out in Sheffield last Sunday. I'm perhaps a bit sensitive or old school has the definition of the term "gay" changed and is it now used a quite differently with da yoofs. Stu, Adam and Mo can you help? :?
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Postby Stu Merckx Man » Wed Jan 16, 2008 10:54 am

oh toks you old man! :lol:

its a way descibing something when its bad, anoying you, doesnt work.

"why is the addiscombe forum bieng gay?"- translation "why is the addiscombe forum not working properly?"
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Postby Toks » Wed Jan 16, 2008 11:42 am

[quote="Stu Merckx Man"]oh toks you old man! :lol:

its a way descibing something when its bad, anoying you, doesnt work.

"why is the addiscombe forum bieng gay?"- translation "why is the addiscombe forum not working properly?"
ok ok I got it :D
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Postby Daniel Gee » Wed Jan 16, 2008 3:17 pm

lots of people use it just to mean lame and I didn't intend it as a term of disrespect

however i can often be thoughtless in the way I communicate and i'm sorry I came across that way to some of you :oops:
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Postby -Adam- » Wed Jan 16, 2008 5:22 pm

It is only a word of disrespect if you use it in the wrong context, like using other words asociated with black people, I have black friends who accept that its not what you say, its how you say it (how its meant, and the tone, if you see what I mean)

So yes, your all being gay.


joking!
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Postby Tamar » Wed Jan 16, 2008 6:01 pm

My (much younger) sister uses the term 'that's so gay' all the time and refuses to accept it's offensive. In fact she thinks that if you're offended by it it's your problem not hers. I disagree and we crossed swords on the topic at New Year...I can't even remember what it was now that she thought was 'so gay'...but it would have been with reference to a situation or person in a negative context. She argues that it is nothing to do with gay people/culture and simply a word used to describe a situation. But I think she's wrong. If you describe something as 'so gay' then surely the only interpretation is that you are saying it is something associated with gay culture...and if you're using the term, as she does, to denote that something is negative, then the only interpretation I can see is that she is saying gay culture is a negative thing.
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Postby -Adam- » Wed Jan 16, 2008 6:31 pm

Yeah but hang on a minute, a hundred years ago if not less, gay meant happy, right? Im sure many still use the word in this way.

So its only natural for words to have new meanings attached to them by differing cultures, right?

Like saying wicked when something is good, or even thats 'bad', when really, its actually very good...

There is a gay guy in my class at uni, and even he openely uses the phrase 'don't be gay' if someone is doing something stupid. Like I said before I think its the context in which its meant and is interpreted thats important.
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Postby Colin.Steadman » Wed Jan 16, 2008 7:15 pm

Adam's right.
Words and phrases change meaning over time.
In this case, the word 'gay' has morphed into another meaning altogether while keeping the original meaning as well.
Language is a fluid and dynamic thing that's constantly changing.
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Postby Sylv » Wed Jan 16, 2008 9:12 pm

I thought we were only talking about kid's schoolground talk there - who would seriously say such and such thing was "gay" in an adult conversation?

As kids we said the most horrible things, most often because we didn't know the full meaning of the words - when I was small "PD" was the common insult - from "pederast" but with the implied meaning of "gay". There were racial insults too, but you grow out of these things when you are about 13 don't you?
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Postby Tamar » Thu Jan 17, 2008 11:00 am

[quote]I thought we were only talking about kid's schoolground talk there


My sister's nearly 25 and still behaving like a bl**dy 13 yr old. I despair. :roll:
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Postby Andrew G » Thu Jan 17, 2008 12:26 pm

[quote="Tamar"]My sister's nearly 25 and still behaving like a bl**dy 13 yr old. I despair. :roll:

My Dad's 71 and still behaves like a 13 year old :D .
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Postby Grahame » Thu Jan 17, 2008 1:20 pm

[quote="Andrew G"][quote="Tamar"]My sister's nearly 25 and still behaving like a bl**dy 13 yr old. I despair. :roll:

My Dad's 71 and still behaves like a 13 year old :D .


I'm having visions of the Green household(s) being something like a masculine version of Absolutely Fabulous :shock: :twisted:
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Postby Snoop Doug » Thu Jan 17, 2008 1:50 pm

Thread hijack alert!!!

Firstly, well done on the result and thanks for a great report.

Now then.....

[quote="Tamar"]we crossed swords on the topic at New Year...


I'd have paid to see that :wink:

My daughter went to Gaytime day Nursery for three years until last September. I assumed (tho never checked) that this was named in the context of happy rather than Hampstead Heath bogs :shock:

I had an admiration for the place as I'm sure they must've been tempted to change the name over the years, partly to suit the pc brigade and partly to remove any sense of awkwardness. Let's face it - associating the word gay with small children - most people'd run a mile.

Context is important - and the odd boundary here and there don't go amiss. Most gay folk I know don't bat an eye lid over the term and use it themselves - doesn't mean I (and others) don't know when to apply a bit of sensitivity. Other terms, such as the ones marco offers up for discussion are more.....acceptably offensive (zat right....?).
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Postby Andrew G » Thu Jan 17, 2008 2:47 pm

[quote="Grahame"][quote="Andrew G"][quote="Tamar"]My sister's nearly 25 and still behaving like a bl**dy 13 yr old. I despair. :roll:

My Dad's 71 and still behaves like a 13 year old :D .


I'm having visions of the Green household(s) being something like a masculine version of Absolutely Fabulous :shock: :twisted:

:lol: ...and that's before mentioning my older brother. Trust me I'm the sensible one :shock: .
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Postby Michelle » Thu Jan 17, 2008 10:02 pm

Bluddy well done Dan, really lived the race there, the old palms started sweating especially as you and your wobbly saddle were taking the gutter line towards the finish! Or should that be the racing line.

Hope to meet you up there at another 4th Cat race.

Actually, hope you stay in bed when I go - more chance for me to get some points! :wink:

And keep up with giving up the fags. I used to smoke too, just think of the bike fitness benefits.
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